Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Porn: a poem

The last thing I want this to be
is some holier-than-thou-type-thing.
That would be hypocritical
because I'm in the same boat
as you, so to speak.

But there are some tendencies
in 21st century American society
that, when I think about them
in a serious way...scare the hell out of me:

The massive popularity of Ultimate Fighting.

Corporate media.

The ratio of US consumption to population
compared with the rest of the world.

The Tax Code.

The 14th Amendment applied to corporations.

And internet pornography.

I ran into a female friend
at a coffee shop today
and, for some reason,
we got talking about porn.

When I told her that
the US porn industry
makes way more money
than Hollywood,
her eyes got sad and
she asked me,
with intense sincerity:

"What's going to happen to us?"

"I don't know."

We both agreed
that, putting religion aside,
porn probably has some detrimental
psychological/relational effects.

We both agreed
that dating, in the 21st century,
is weird, and not in
a particularly funny way.

Weird as in we literally
don't know how a relationship
is supposed to function anymore.

Weird as in we are
lonely and afraid and legitimately confused.

We both agreed
that this loneliness and fear and confusion
might, at some deep-down level,
be related to porn.

Not exclusively porn,
but porn is probably
a much bigger part
of the relationship picture these days
than most people
are comfortable
talking about.

3 comments:

  1. I know I'm not comfortable talking about porn cuz I'll think about the people I'm attracted to and I'll get in the mood to you know what. lol.

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  2. This hits to the core of illusions and separation within relationships. A consumer society with a desperate scramble to get to "the point" as opposed to enjoying the process. Not just in sex, but in everything.

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  3. Porn is part of what has made the community as a whole start viewing any given individual as robotic. The adverse isn't great either. Their needs to be a point where there's sexual understanding, but not sexual distance from what's real and what isn't.
    A point where the word " relationship" doesn't mean: 'item' of my life that may or may not work to my advantage. We may all have different ideas and views, but we are all valid as individuals. There are no scapegoats, and not everyone is a hidden monster( the idea of the word monster has become to mean fake/fictional creation).

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